“You seem like a good fit”…and other misleading affirmations/sentiments

To quote a previous post, “holy shit you guys, it’s May already”. This sentiment has remained relevant, as April has once again eluded me. Last April I spent a week in Spain, to visit a good friend. We frolicked around … Continue reading

Meraviglioso

Meraviglioso (MARE- UH- VIL- YO- ZO) : Italian for wonderful, splendid, marvelous. I was on the plane coming home from the beautiful island of Sardegna about a week ago, feeling sad about how little time I have left in Italy, … Continue reading

Sunday Songs & Sentiments

It’s Sunday morning, rain is falling on my window pane…wait no, that’s a Maroon 5 song. It’s Sunday morning and I’m sitting here on my unmade bed attempting to study Dante’s Inferno, before my attention span descends into the great … Continue reading

Lessons Learned from The Dixie Chicks

Country music may not be everyone’s genre of choice, but there’s no denying that some of life’s most valuable lessons are found in Country songs. No, I’m not talking about songs like “Red Solo Cup” or “Tequila Makes Her Clothes Fall Off”, though catchy, these songs are not what one would consider profound. I’m talking about one country trio in particular, The Dixie Chicks. These country gals sang stories with morals and lessons, here are a few of the lessons I learned from growing up listening to their music:

1. Stand up for yourself.

If there’s any consistent message throughout the music of The Dixie Chicks, it’s that you’ve got to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Songs like “Not Ready to make Nice”, “There’s your Trouble” and “Ready to Run” are sweet and feisty at the same time. They assert their message that you can’t let people walk all over you and that in this life, there’s no time to waste with the wrong people.

2. You’re nothing without your girls.

The Dixie Chicks are all about girl power and it’s awesome! Almost all of their songs are written like a story, talking about a girl that everyone can relate to, talking about love, friends, and family. In addition, the all-girl group discusses things like, being there for your girls in their lyrics, in addition to going out and having a good time on the dance floor.

Watch: Somedays You Gotta Dance

3. It’s ok to fall, as long as you get back up.

In songs like “Cold Day in July”, you learn that shit happens and relationships are messy, but it’s ok because the sun’s gonna come back up and the next day’s gonna be just fine. Even if the worst happens to you, you can overcome it and if not you should look for a cowboy to take you away.

4. Never end up with an “Earl”.

One of my favorite songs, because it’s so wonderfully twisted is about two girls named Wanda and Maryann who take matters into their own hands when one of them has an abusive husband. Basically, the message is never settle for an “Earl”. Watch the video and you’ll get it.

5. Romance knows no borders.

I’m really not very patriotic, in the sense that I’m not one to shout U.S.A. at sporting events or sing I’m Proud to Be an American loudly on July 4th. But, there’s something so special to me about men and women who risk their lives to fight and leave their families behind. The song “Traveling Soldier”, in my opinion is one of the most romantic songs ever. I don’t know if it’s the letter writing or the idea of waiting for that one special person to return home, but I just adore this song. Plus, the music video is adorable and it has Josh Harnett (hottie alert)!

Give a Little Bit

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In this world there are two types of people (So generic, I know. Just go with it)…there are givers and takers. In my young adulthood it has become exceedingly apparent that I am a giver. I’m always the one who offers to drive, to have the party at my house, to help clean up once everyone else leaves. You get the picture, I’m a generous gal. However generosity is a tricky trait, because it is often something people take advantage of.

Generosity is something that has been instilled in me ever since childhood. My parents and grandparents have always been extremely generous people and have always taught me to be respectful and thoughtful. They always taught me that you can do a lot with a little and that you don’t need to be rich to live a luxurious life. Most of my family worked in blue-collar jobs, having grown up on the streets of NYC with little education and a level of street smarts that is probably unimaginable to most kids these days.

Nowadays, I feel like most young adults my age, live in an ego-centric world and are totally oblivious to the world around them. Generosity is not commonplace and is rarely reciprocal. This leaves me in an awkward position. How do I learn how to be selfish? I’m not saying I’m an angel or that I’m not selfish to an extent, because I totally am (I often hoard the last spoonful of almond butter so no one else can eat it). I have to learn how to accept the fact that all people were raised differently and that it’s ok for people to be the way that they are. Which is SO HARD.

Example: I have friends that in theory, their parents make enough money for them to go to school and probably live in a metropolitan city for 5 years so that they never have to worry about loans or rent. Sounds nice, right? Well, what I have learned is that these people are assholes when it comes to money. I owed my friend $2.43 for something and despite the fact that I drove her around all the time and would always share my stuff with her, SHE STILL ASKED FOR THE FUCKING $2.43 INCESSANTLY. I made sure I paid her back every penny, in pennies (which everyone knows is like the fuck you of paying people back). Anyway, this year I picked up the tab for something and she still hasn’t paid me back and it’s been 5 weeks. I’m sounding sort of bitter so I’ll stop ranting now. But, just to drive the point home that I need to learn how to be a little more stingy, for I don’t have a disposable income.

I wish people my age were able to see the big picture and could understand that being thoughtful and generous are traits that will give them a much richer life. For now, there are only a few people I know who get it. In the meantime, I’m going to continue to be that person who takes out the trash when it’s not my week and the person that spots someone $5 and is not a nazi about getting it back. Because, that’s just who I am and I’m hoping it will pay off later.